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A Partners View Of Postnatal Depression


I am writing this blog post to give an insight from a male partners point of view of seeing their partner suffer with Postnatal Depression. I am hoping partners and those suffering with Postnantal Depression feel they can talk about this more openly. It is not a taboo subject and there is so much support out there.

Since the birth of our second child Zenayah I began to notice a change in Mics mood when it became hard for her to have that spark that she used to have. At first, she put it down to our living situation and I thought as soon as we move into our new home it will get better. But in the back of my mind I had a feeling it wasn't just the blues. Having two girls that want your attention 24 hours a day can take a lot out of the best of us, but what made me realise this more was how Mics hardly wanted to go out. Mics has always been outgoing like me and for her to act like this got me thinking this may be Postnatal Depression.

I always try to give Mics an opportunity to have a break as much as I can; whether it's taking May May to the park or rocking Zenayah to sleep and giving bottle feeds. But I could still see the strain of everything and the toll it was taking. This breaks my heart as I wish there was something I could do to help or take at least half the weight off her shoulders. There are days when she can feel low and some days when she feels good, but I still know Mics is finding it hard to deal with. I try to advise as best I can on how she is feeling and what we can do to try and overcome this, however I feel that I don't have answers. Don’t get me wrong, Mics is a fantastic mum and partner, but she needs the professional support that I cannot give.

I suggested that Mics speak to her doctor about this so she can get the extra support to get through this because the last thing I want for Mics is for this to get worse. Our kids love the bones off of her and we all want the confident Mics back. If there is anyone who can overcome this it is Mics. We as a family have her back and she will always have my love and support no matter what happens with this.

Thanks for reading

OJ

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