Skip to main content

First Feelings on Becoming a Dad


I'm completely new to this blog writing lark but I feel I have so much thoughts and feelings I want to share that I could not keep it in anymore. 

 My life changed forever when my beautiful fiance Michaela (Mics) showed me the positive pregnancy test in the early hours of the morning. Mics couldn't believe it herself and asked me to confirm whether the test was positive. I said that it was and that was the moment my whole life changed to thoughts of our baby gracing the world and how protective I was going to be.

 It didn't sink in for me for a long time, like winning a award or trophy, when in your mind you never thought you could win it. It was overwhelming and that rush you feel knowing this tiny human being was going to make our family complete. I wanted to scream it from the rooftops, but we decided that we would wait for the 12 week scan before we revealed the news.

 As you can imagine this was not easy at all. I wanted to tell my friends and family, to see their faces change when they heard the news and how much advice they will impart. The only way I could channel my excitement was by reading baby books and articles to be as ready as possible for the pregnancy ahead.

 My nerves kicked in when I couldn't find much information from a dads point of view as I really wanted to be as hands on as possible. I felt due to this lack of information, I had so many unanswered questions, that it sometimes made me feel a bit like a sideshow and that I wouldn't be a competent dad.

 Now I am a dad, everything I've learnt has come from doing it in the moment. The internet, books and word of mouth has helped with the basics, but majority of it has been winging it!


Comments

  1. Mummy Said So...2 July 2018 at 01:23

    Thanks for sharing. Your so right! Not a whole lot for Dads. Glad you have decided to change that x

    ReplyDelete

Post a Comment

Popular posts from this blog

Postnatal Depression: Realising You Have It

This post is about me realising I wasn't just stressed, I have Postnatal Depression. It's also a post that I am hoping will show others going through this, that they are not alone and it's okay to talk 💗 "Postnatal depression is when you have feelings of sadness, hopelessness, guilt or self-blame all the time for weeks or months after you’ve had a baby."  (Taken from Tommy's Website) I guess you could say this started from my antenatal depression. I was 7 months pregnant and our landlord had decided he wanted to sell his house, serving us eviction papers. Imagine that. 7 months pregnant, a nearly 2 year old, Christmas was a month away and I was now being told we would be evicted. Obviously I was stressed! I wasn't having a smooth pregnancy as it is, I did not need this on top of everything. OJ tried his best to keep me calm, but I could see the effect it had on him too. We spoke to our local council who said there were steps the landlord had to take befo...
Post a Comment
Read more

5 Month Reflection Of Our Princess

This week our May May officially turned 5 months old and I couldn't be more happier with how her development is going so far. She is so alert these days and has started to notice her hands and feet more often. It has been a massive learning experience for me as this is my first time being a parent but it has all been worthwhile.  I have struggled with nighttime routines with her as this is when she gets more agitated from teething and growing pains. Its hard to see her in distress and i try to give her as much cuddles as possible which sometimes calms her down but over the course of time she has become more playful.  I love it when I enter a room and she gives me the biggest gummy smile. It totally fills my heart up when she does that and it immediately makes everything else minimal. May May has also learnt how to roll over onto her stomach which is a joy to see and how she has the ability to move her body in different positions while laying on her back.  I ...
Post a Comment
Read more

The Joys of Mayarna

It's been a while since I last wrote a blog but I feel I've got too much to keep to myself. May-May is 18 months old and boy has she developed into a character! She is so full of joy and knows how to cut some serious shapes (making me look bad lol) with any music you can give her. The way she picks up things, responsds and answers in her own speech astounds me as I couldn't have imagined her learning so fast.  When we were on holiday in Benidorm, she would wave at anyone who passed and I think she made a few friends along the way with her quirky facial expressions. I can see how carefree she is and even at times goes into a full speech randomly. All the locals loved her and when we went it to shops they would give her treats like lollies and sweets.  I think for me, seeing May-May pick up all these new traits it lets me know that we are raising an amazing child who never stops surprising us. We have been trying to get her more used to walking and leaving ...
Post a Comment
Read more