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First Feelings on Becoming a Dad


I'm completely new to this blog writing lark but I feel I have so much thoughts and feelings I want to share that I could not keep it in anymore. 

 My life changed forever when my beautiful fiance Michaela (Mics) showed me the positive pregnancy test in the early hours of the morning. Mics couldn't believe it herself and asked me to confirm whether the test was positive. I said that it was and that was the moment my whole life changed to thoughts of our baby gracing the world and how protective I was going to be.

 It didn't sink in for me for a long time, like winning a award or trophy, when in your mind you never thought you could win it. It was overwhelming and that rush you feel knowing this tiny human being was going to make our family complete. I wanted to scream it from the rooftops, but we decided that we would wait for the 12 week scan before we revealed the news.

 As you can imagine this was not easy at all. I wanted to tell my friends and family, to see their faces change when they heard the news and how much advice they will impart. The only way I could channel my excitement was by reading baby books and articles to be as ready as possible for the pregnancy ahead.

 My nerves kicked in when I couldn't find much information from a dads point of view as I really wanted to be as hands on as possible. I felt due to this lack of information, I had so many unanswered questions, that it sometimes made me feel a bit like a sideshow and that I wouldn't be a competent dad.

 Now I am a dad, everything I've learnt has come from doing it in the moment. The internet, books and word of mouth has helped with the basics, but majority of it has been winging it!


Comments

  1. Mummy Said So...2 July 2018 at 01:23

    Thanks for sharing. Your so right! Not a whole lot for Dads. Glad you have decided to change that x

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