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A Partners View Of Postnatal Depression

I am writing this blog post to give an insight from a male partners point of view of seeing their partner suffer with Postnatal Depression. I am hoping partners and those suffering with Postnantal Depression feel they can talk about this more openly. It is not a taboo subject and there is so much support out there. Since the birth of our second child Zenayah I began to notice a change in Mics mood when it became hard for her to have that spark that she used to have. At first, she put it down to our living situation and I thought as soon as we move into our new home it will get better. But in the back of my mind I had a feeling it wasn't just the blues. Having two girls that want your attention 24 hours a day can take a lot out of the best of us, but what made me realise this more was how Mics hardly wanted to go out. Mics has always been outgoing like me and for her to act like this got me thinking this may be Postnatal Depression. I always try to give Mics an opportunity to have
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Postnatal Depression: Realising You Have It

This post is about me realising I wasn't just stressed, I have Postnatal Depression. It's also a post that I am hoping will show others going through this, that they are not alone and it's okay to talk 💗 "Postnatal depression is when you have feelings of sadness, hopelessness, guilt or self-blame all the time for weeks or months after you’ve had a baby."  (Taken from Tommy's Website) I guess you could say this started from my antenatal depression. I was 7 months pregnant and our landlord had decided he wanted to sell his house, serving us eviction papers. Imagine that. 7 months pregnant, a nearly 2 year old, Christmas was a month away and I was now being told we would be evicted. Obviously I was stressed! I wasn't having a smooth pregnancy as it is, I did not need this on top of everything. OJ tried his best to keep me calm, but I could see the effect it had on him too. We spoke to our local council who said there were steps the landlord had to take befo
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Lockdown and Me

The minute lockdown began I could sense that things were not going to be the same as before. May May also possibly sensed this and we were thrust into a situation where we were unable to go out to play gyms as usual and see people. But it was a opportunity to have a hands on effect on our children’s development, such as doing more arts and crafts with May May, teaching her the alphabet using her favourite book from The StoryTime Lab daily to help with her speech. Zenayah has developed so much and started to roll onto her tummy as soon as you place her on her back!  Thankfully the weather has been really good and we've been able to go out in the garden, go for walks, play with the bubble machine and have a kickabout as well. May May loves our kickabouts and the way she strikes the ball has surprised me due to the level of technique she has. I think I may have to get her into football training!  At times Lockdown has been hard especially when every day feels the same and I have stru
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Mental Health in Lockdown

It's no secret that Covid-19 has, and still is, having a massive effect on all of us. For someone who suffers with anxiety and worries a lot, this "lockdown" has been quite difficult. Don't get me wrong, we have absolutely great days! Mayarna's speech has developed so much. She is now starting to form sentences, her fine motor skills are getting stronger as she learns to stack things neatly and she enjoys helping with housework, such as putting the clothes in the washing machine and putting things in the bin. Zenayah has also come on in leaps and bounds. At 4 and a half months she is now reaching out for things and has mastered how to pull off her scratch mitts (cheeky!). Mayarna loves playing with Zenayah, and Zenayah loves watching her play and laughs at her, which is too cute! But it also comes with difficult days. Mayarna is in the terrible 2 phase (yes it's real, I didn't believe it existed) where she kicks off for the smallest of things! I opene
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2 and Counting

This week May-May reached 2 years old and I can't believe how far she has come with her development. She has got a cheeky personality and she dances to anything randomly. For her birthday we got a first words book. She has managed to recite most of the book by memory and whenever she sees any of the items, she shouts out the word.  For her birthday, me and Mics took her out for the day to Eureka Museum , which is a children’s museum that gives them a real-world experience. She absolutely loved it there! Her favourite room was the Sensory Section. It was a huge, dark room and the walls were an interactive magical kingdom. The floor was an interactive under the sea and when May-May stepped on certain areas, sensory eels would swim towards her feet. There was also a M&S store for children with plastic fruit and vegetables. I adored how she was pushing the trolley as if she was shopping. She then had a go with the cars as well, pretending to drive and making the e
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Guest Post: Pregnancy Journey by Life Coach Sam

This weeks pregnancy journey is by Samantha Abraham . Her journey had me laughing and i'm sure you will do the same! I gave birth to my beautiful baby number 5 at the beginning of January this year. I have 2 boys aged 21 and 8 years as well as 2 girls aged 7&5. Baby No.5 came as a huge but pleasant surprise after having decided not to have any more and quitting my job to create a start-up. Having passed the stages of denial I finally take a pregnancy test... Reality sets in and my husband and I are now passed staring at each other in silence which goes on to last a couple of months.   This eventually moves into us having conversations about our worries and what we need to do to plan for this.... unplanned, untimely pleasant little gift with the power of scaring us half to death!!! ... At some point among the madness, we do the maths and work out as tradition would have it....our little gift really was a gift!!!...as in that we worked out that we
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Guest Post: Pregnancy Journey by My Mummy is a Bookworm

The next few blog posts are going to be based on pregnancy and the obstacles we have to face not only during pregnancy, but conceiving and even after giving birth. My guest for this post is Danielle from My Mummy is a Bookworm  She has decided to share with me her journey to becoming a mother. "We got married. I came off the pill. I thought it would be that simple. Boy was I deluded. It started with absent periods, months went by and I had nothing, I did pregnancy tests and they always came back negative. I went to see my GP for advice, and they sent me for some blood tests. The result came back and I found out that I had Polycystic Ovary Syndrome and that this may impact on my ability to conceive. I was shattered, the reality of having a baby suddenly felt so far away and I felt that it was completely my fault. I couldn’t give myself or my partner what we so desperately wanted - a family. I was referred to a specialist at St Mary’s Hospital in Manchester
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